Posted on: Sunday, July 28th, 2013
Here’s another balance that’s hard to strike – and hard to help clients understand and decide.
Typical example: Husband and wife have been married 50 years. They are both in their seventies. They have a nice nest egg, but are hardly rich. Let’s say their home is paid off, and is worth $150,000. In addition they have another $250,000 in investments, bank accounts and retirement funds.
Now husband gets dementia. Wife takes care of him at home as long as she can. Children might help toward the end of the effort, and she may start hiring caregivers for a few hours a day. But as her husband’s care needs increase she realizes that the costs of the care-giving combined with the usual costs of life are depleting their savings at an alarming rate.
The wife investigates private pay care facilities and learns that the assisted living facility that is closest to her home and that she believes would provide her husband with the highest quality of care would cost $5,000 per month.
The wife seeks advice and learns that if she puts her husband in a Medicaid nursing home, all of the marital funds can be protected for her needs and he can qualify for Medicaid. It might even be possible to protect most or all of the husband’s income for her expenses. The decision she faces is when to pull the trigger and place their spouse in a Medicaid nursing home? How much of the marital pot can the healthy spouse afford to spend before compromising her own long term financial integrity? If she is in her mid-seventies and relatively healthy, she should consider the real possibility that she may live another twenty or thirty years –and in the long run the amount of money she retains through this process will directly impact her quality of life, and quality of care choices that she will have as she becomes more frail.
Other options, like community based Medicaid services through the MI Choice program or in some parts of the state the PACE program, may provide options that will allow the impaired spouse to remain in the home longer, even indefinitely, by providing additional assistance with care-giving at no cost. Veterans benefits may also be available. But in many cases these options may not be available or may be too little.
The reality is that our current healthcare system commonly puts a spouse of an impaired adult in the position of striking the difficult balance between the quality of care that the ill-spouse will receive and his or her own long term financial integrity- a difficult and emotional decision to have to make for sure.